Balancing Writing & Life—The World Rewards Finishers NOT Perfection

Original image via Lucy Downey from Flickr Creative Commons

Original image via Lucy Downey from Flickr Creative Commons

The world around us is always pushing this notion of “perfection” and, I don’t know about you, but sometimes I wonder what “reality” looks like. All the models are tall and thin and young with poofy lips (and men have their own variety of the super model stereotype). They have fabulous clothes and new cars and go on expensive vacations.

Even our homes! When I look around my house that’s littered with toys, my sink full of dishes and two baskets full of laundry (even though I just DID laundry) I wonder what a real home is supposed to look like? Where do I fit? Sure NOT on Pinterest.

Granted, there are areas I KNOW I am slacking (*cough* Christmas tree is STILL standing) and let’s not talk about the state of my drawers and closets. But, I generally (when the washer ISN’T broken) wash the sheets 1-2 times a week. I make the beds. I clean the toilets all the time because Spawn is 4 and we are still working on AIM.

Pippa claims she is "helping" with laundry. Right.

Pippa claims she is “helping” with laundry. Right.

But I am nowhere near the homes in magazines or on TV, even though I live in an apron. I will never wear skinny jeans and I am unwilling to go into crushing debt to keep up with a world who portrays a “reality” that is geared to make me emotional, make me feel inferior and therefore buy stuff. Or work more, do more, more, more, more.

I live in my apron only usually no makeup and hair in a scrunch-ee

I live in my apron, but usually no makeup and hair in a scrunch-ee.

Why do I bring this up?

Because perfect is an illusion. There is no such thing. Our society has gotten into this GO BIG OR GO HOME attitude, and sure, that might be okay in one or two aspects of our lives…but ALL OF IT? I cannot look like a fitness model, write 4 novels a year, have perfect social media, make crafts with my kid, volunteer, drive a BMW and have a house that should be featured on HGTV.

Maybe you can. I can’t and won’t. Not worth it.

Thus, we need to list our priorities and it is okay to let the other stuff be less than perfect. But, in light of this argument, I also want to say this isn’t a pass to be lazy or mediocre. We should strive for that nice healthy balance. When we get out of balance, something or someone will suffer. I have to be careful I don’t get so focused on writing and business and cleaning that I forget to be a mom.

I have to take out time to run with Spawn through the house with NERF guns looking for zombies. The dishes will be there. I know. I’ve tested this hoping they’d disappear but they apparently mated and made more.

Writing

You want to be a writer? Great. Here’s the good news. If you’re writing, you’re already a writer so stop the angst. Just do it. This is one of the reasons I am such a huge fan of blogging. Writers write.

My mom can post on Facebook and The Spawn has been known to tweet, but neither of them blog….because they aren’t writers. Blogging is training for the professional pace.

Blogging is THE most stable form of social media and it trains us to be better writers. We can write leaner, meaner, faster and commit. No Writer Warden is going to show up and take us to jail if we don’t blog/write. To be professional, we have to be good at keeping and meeting self-imposed deadlines. Not only does blogging make us better writers and create a stable platform, it also trains those self-discipline muscles.

Original image via Flickr Creative Commons, courtesy of Stoere Schrijfster.

Original image via Flickr Creative Commons, courtesy of Stoere Schrijfster.

Even if you don’t blog, commit to writing something daily. Write a 100 words, then work up to 200 then 500. When I started, 1000 words was SO HARD, so I started with 100, but it was a beginning and we all start somewhere. The trick is to START.

Give Grace

I’ve read writing books and inspirational/leadership books that I wanted to punch. The last leadership book I read, the author talked about the importance of taking time to think, how he goes to his office and just sits in the quiet and thinks for an hour by himself in his special thinking chair. How cute.

I can’t even go PEE alone. 99% of the time, I have two cats and a dog fighting for attention while The Spawn hits me with a sword or begs me to help him level up on Angry Birds.

Can I JUST go to the BATHROOM….ALONE?

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Whenever I hear of an author who recommends traveling to a location for a book and staying there a month or two to absorb the experience? I think, “Sure. Uh huh.” And this isn’t to be negative, because I do have that as a goal. But, for most of us, that won’t be reality for a long time, if ever. But we still have to get the words on the page. We might have to use Google Earth, Google Images, or tweet a friend in the UK to help be our eyes and help us with setting and dialogue.

And the point of all of this is the best time to do anything is NOW. Just something. Don’t wait to be perfect. Just start. Baby steps are steps and one of the reasons I feel so many of us fail is because we buy into the lie that those tiny steps don’t count. That if we can’t GO BIG, we aren’t trying hard enough. That’s ridiculous and wrong.

Learn to SHIP

Blogging trains perfection out of us. Ship. Too many blogs falter and countless books are never finished because we’re too focused on perfection. There’s no perfect book. I could win a Pulitzer and still have people who hate my book.

Finished books are far more valuable than perfect ones.

The house? Hey, if I can keep from making an episode of Hoarders? Score! Sure, my goal is to organize a drawer a day, weekok month. But I can make my bed. My finances? My goal is to be completely debt free. I can start by not making more debt. For instance, I’m going to the Laundromat until I can save for a new washer.

My body?

I already eat clean, because I have a zillion food allergies. But, I haven’t been working out like I used to. Why? Because I was an IDIOT. I was caught up in the GO BIG OR GO HOME and gave myself such bad tendonitis that I had to lay off all exercise, other than maybe walking or yoga, for over a YEAR to fully heal.

I decided this weekend to revisit the p90X workout. I’ve done it before but I pushed too hard and injured myself. This morning, even though The Spawn was up all night and I had no sleep, I got up to my alarm and started. Did I do the whole thing perfectly? Nope. Was kind of a flabby train wreck, but I did it.

The trick to all of this is to:

  • Contemplate what is TRULY important. Might have to sacrifice the immaculate house for a finished novel.
  • Make a plan and one that is BALANCED. Somewhere between mediocrity and insanity is a nice happy place.
  • Give permission for failure. Failure teaches far more than success ever has.
  • Learn to ship.
  • Be a finisher. My mantra is “The world rewards finishers not perfection.”
  • Finish small and eventually we’ll finish big.
  • Just start. If we have a hiccup? Life blows up? Just start again. Simple.

I want all of you to reach your dreams and still have sanity, friends and a happy relationship/marriage/family. No perfectly clean house, no amount of money, no number of best-selling books can take the place of what’s really important. But, beyond that? REACH.

Ignore a world that’s out to tell you you aren’t trying hard enough and you aren’t good enough. YOU ARE. One foot in front of the other and celebrate the little things, because all the universe is constructed of tiny things ;).

The largest, brightest star is still made up of tiny atoms of Hydrogen and Helium. Every book is made up of a combination of 26 letters. Every healthy body is the cumulation of small, sound choices. Baby steps. Relish them and celebrate them.

Anyway, what are your thoughts? Where do you struggle? Are you bad about All-or-Nothing Thinking, too? Do you tend to go to extremes, either overdoing or being a tool slacker (raises hand)? What ways do you keep yourself pushing on? How do you handle setbacks?

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  1. #1 by kks21 on February 24, 2014 - 1:49 pm

    Great post. I always struggle with perfection. The truth is that it’s not worth it. Still,it’s a hard habit to shake

  2. #2 by Fran Macilvey on February 24, 2014 - 1:49 pm

    Okay, maybe I missed it, but can you remind me what SHIP is? Did you write about this last time and I forgot? Sorry! xxx ;-))

    • #3 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 24, 2014 - 1:54 pm

      Just get it out there. Literally….ship. Let it go. Publish the blog even though it isn’t worthy of a Pulitzer. Move on to the next book and then the next. Keep moving forward :D.

      • #4 by Fran Macilvey on February 24, 2014 - 1:57 pm

        Yes, thanks, that is just perfect. I’ll remember that! xx :-))

  3. #5 by Joe Bradshaw on February 24, 2014 - 1:56 pm

    Kristen I truly enjoyed this post as well as all you choose to share… Thank you for sharing your thoughts and inspiration. :-) :-) Joe

  4. #6 by Catherine Johnson on February 24, 2014 - 1:56 pm

    Fran, ship just means get it published (sent on the ship) don’t stay in the harbour forever.

  5. #7 by Stephanie Scott on February 24, 2014 - 1:58 pm

    I’ve been a regular commenter on various message forums since the year 2000. It really helps to hone your opinions by connecting with smart people; even pop culture criticism (my current fave hang out is AV Club’s comment threads–wickedly smart commentary about all things TV and media). It’s easy to click Like on Facebook–the work is done, you don’t even need to comment. But to go further to express an opinion, what makes something work and why? Can you state this succinctly? Comment threads like on this blog foster good conversation. Be wary of which sites you go to; I avoid those that are constantly trolled.

    Also, in light of perfect on TV, I imagine the Real Housewives franchise believe themselves to be. Please ladies, don’t do that to your face. A woman in her 30s should not look like a wax figure with a frozen face. That’s not perfect, it’s sad (faces are meant to move! And express things!)

    • #8 by Stephanie Scott on February 24, 2014 - 2:01 pm

      To clarify my own comment, most of the “Housewives” are older, but when watching with a friend, she mentioned one of the cast as being in early 30s and I just could not believe it. Botox/plastic surgery made her look 10 years older at least. I just don’t get it!

  6. #9 by Tony Lavely (@tlavely) on February 24, 2014 - 1:58 pm

    Too late to vote Kristen. Closed 2/21.
    But don’t let that stop you… Not that I think it would!

    • #10 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 24, 2014 - 2:08 pm

      Booo. Oh well. Will edit that out. I thought it was today. WANACon has me loopy. Thanks though.

  7. #11 by coldhandboyack on February 24, 2014 - 2:02 pm

    I really need this today. I spent a lot of time doubting myself this weekend. Thanks.

  8. #12 by Gyan Devi (@ScholarshipsOrg) on February 24, 2014 - 2:03 pm

    The timing of this post couldn’t be more perfect. I just got off the phone with my co-author and we spent most of today’s weekly meeting on this issue. Great advice!

  9. #13 by Catherine Johnson on February 24, 2014 - 2:04 pm

    I definitely don’t struggle with perfection. Have you seen my illustrations lol. When you are in the midst of writing challenges and submitting to agents, learning craft, people can think you’re not doing enough because there are no results to see. Once you leave traditional behind it’s dead easy to appear productive because now you have a bunch of manuscripts to publish. I would expect the perfectionist mentality to be an issue with traditional folk. A hold up on the self-pub front is probably an oh crap how do I do this?

  10. #14 by JoAnne Potter on February 24, 2014 - 2:09 pm

    I went to vote for you. I really did. Not only because I have saved and printed more of your blogs than any other, PERIOD, but because you made me laugh again. When I was in your place, I couldn’t pee alone, either. Still laughing. And, my first book is going out to agents, now. And it’s not perfect.

  11. #15 by saralitchfield on February 24, 2014 - 2:09 pm

    I think it is *so* much more important to hunt down the zombies in the house than do the dishes. The dishes may multiply like rabbits – but at least they don’t eat you!

    Thank you for a wonderful WANACon – so jealous of the prize-winners! So lucky there’s so much advice and teaching in your blog, the WANACon sessions and your book, that there are really no losers!

  12. #16 by Lori Robinett on February 24, 2014 - 2:10 pm

    Great post. Need to make this my mantra. Congrats to the winners (and thanks, Kristin, for coordinating a great conference!)
    (side note: I once took my Christmas tree down in April.)

    • #17 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 24, 2014 - 3:08 pm

      Last year mine was up until Hubby took it down…on MEMORIAL DAY LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

  13. #19 by Caffe Maggieato on February 24, 2014 - 2:15 pm

    “The world rewards finishers not perfection.” – Thanks for that! I often struggle as I can’t seem to let a piece of crappy writing go, which means nothing gets done. I definitely need to keep reminding myself that little by little, something can be achieved. I think I’m just impatient like that with unrealistic expectations. Thanks for a wonderful post!

  14. #20 by Harliqueen on February 24, 2014 - 2:20 pm

    A very motivating post! I agree with it all, especially with just getting something written everyday, even just a few words :)

  15. #21 by Elke Feuer on February 24, 2014 - 2:21 pm

    Balance what’s that? LOL! I have a tendency to take on too much and burn myself out! This year I promised myself I would find balance by: keep going if I stumble and fall behind, do what I can and not feel guilty if I can’t get it all done, and prioritize. Certain things can wait without worrying the world will come to an end if they don’t get done.

  16. #22 by Keith Channing on February 24, 2014 - 2:22 pm

    Great balancing article. I have been told for years, and believed, that “the good is often the enemy of the best”. That appeals to my perfectionist leanings and (I hope) mild OCD. Perhaps my mantra should be “It’s OK to be OK”, or something like that. Isaac Asimov said, “Above all, never think you’re not good enough. Never think that. In life people will take you at your own reckoning.” Perhaps I should have remembered that, rather than his three laws of robotics.

  17. #23 by Gerri Brousseau on February 24, 2014 - 2:25 pm

    Loved this blog. You had me laughing out loud! Can totally relate to so many things you said, especially going to the bathroom alone. Thanks for the laugh. I needed it!

  18. #24 by Melissa Lewicki on February 24, 2014 - 2:27 pm

    I like that the fact that you wrote this post and it wasn’t perfect (voting date is past). You just modeled the behavior you want us to embrace! Great post. Thanks.

    • #25 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 24, 2014 - 2:33 pm

      Unintentional, but YAY. LOL. I am so FRIED from WANACon ha ha ha ha ha ha. See? I am FAR from perfect. FAAAAAARRRRR.

  19. #26 by Sue on February 24, 2014 - 2:28 pm

    Perfectly timed- we are in the process of selling our home and purchasing a new one and my free time has been filled with inspectors, appraisers, radon testers, bankers, and appliance sales people. Oh and packing. Plus my day job, taxes, managing my daughter (long story), the dogs, exercise, and occasional household chores. I haven’t gotten a blog post out in over a week, missing my self imposed deadline. So I was “starting again” and Perfection has been a wall in front of me. I thought I got rid of that guy but he creeps back in when I am looking the other way. Bastard. So thanks for the reminder- I surely needed this today!
    Sue
    PS- voting for you for sure. :)

  20. #27 by Wing Dunham on February 24, 2014 - 2:38 pm

    Would definitely have voted for you but the deadline is long gone. Sob. Next time?

  21. #28 by laneswift on February 24, 2014 - 2:41 pm

    I really needed this kind of inspiration today. I often feel like I should have done everything yesterday and that I’ve done nothing good enough. Thank you. Your advice is sound and practical and do-able!

  22. #29 by swiveltam on February 24, 2014 - 2:42 pm

    WOW! Hit home again. Finding the balance is hard. I laughed out loud at the 99% of the time I can’t pee alone. That’s me. I’m a mom and work outside the home and am trying to write, be in writer’s groups, blog and follow wonderful people like you. Thank you!

  23. #30 by winterbayne on February 24, 2014 - 2:49 pm

    I needed this. Thank you!~

  24. #31 by Gry Ranfelt on February 24, 2014 - 2:49 pm

    O.O
    I’m so happy I just ran through the house twice. And then I called my brother to shout at him that I had the best news for the entire YEAR and he was all cool, saying “bring it” in an Arnold Schwarzenegger “I’ll be back” tone.
    I’m so damn grateful I can’t even fully express it yet!
    I promise to be worthy of it and get as much out of it as possible! So many other people wanted to/could have gotten it and it wouldn’t be fair to them if I didn’t fully appreciate this opportunity!

    Wow, no smileys. I really am overwhelmed.

  25. #35 by Heather Wright on February 24, 2014 - 2:51 pm

    Boy, did I need to read this today! Thanks.

  26. #36 by Denise Devine Meinstad on February 24, 2014 - 2:54 pm

    Thank you for the reminder! Society keeps telling us to look like movie stars and live like millionaires, but frankly, it’s all a waste of time because that is not realistic. Be yourself, be focused on your goals and be happy.

    BTW–my Christmas tree is still standing, too, so I had to laugh when I read that. Besides working a FT job, I’m trying to do a final edit on two books, format them to Kindle, learn about ISBNs and barcodes and figure out how to format both for Createspace. So the tree just might be there for a while. I just shut the doors to the living room and ignore it.

  27. #37 by Abdul J on February 24, 2014 - 2:55 pm

    I would be careful with p90x, it definitely overdoes the training element and I know people who have injured themselves on it (but I suppose you can find people hurting themselves doing anything) so perhaps look at something less strenuous and more efficient? Having said that, it does get good results too.

    • #38 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 24, 2014 - 2:58 pm

      Ironically, I didn’t injure myself with the P90X. I did it working in the yard and painting while doing P90X. Um, some things we should just invest in…a POWER MOWER, especially when you are short. Tore up elbows and wrists mowing :P. I was SO BUMMED, too because I was just starting to look kinda awesome, LOL.

  28. #39 by Lene on February 24, 2014 - 3:03 pm

    just what I needed! I’m hopelessly overwhelmed with everything, trying to do it all and not succeeding. Also not writing on my book, because I never have time to write a chapter. So maybe it’s time to go back to the beginning and write a paragraph or even just a sentence every day. To start focusing on the 70,000 words that I haven’t yet written and start focusing on the 10 words I can write today.

    Thank you.

  29. #40 by symplysilent on February 24, 2014 - 3:13 pm

    Kristen; Thank you for making me think. I’m in the doldrums with family problems, and I am pulling my hair out, ready to run away. Maybe my way back is on my WIP. Or, maybe I should commit to posting something on my blog every day, although I’ve tried to keep the vast majority of my posts as stories. Thank you again, Silent

  30. #41 by baileyboatcat on February 24, 2014 - 3:14 pm

    Oh my human and I can relate! We find it very difficult to ‘keep up’. When the sabbatical starts in April and my human starts writing full-time I’m sure things will be easier, but maybe the pressure will be more… Who knows we’re just going to make the most of the year to come!

  31. #42 by Elena Linville on February 24, 2014 - 3:27 pm

    “Learn to Ship” – loved that idea! One of the biggest commitments I took when I decided to stop thinking about being a writer and actually being one was to start a blog and write one post a week, rain or shine. It can be challenging, but It’s true that it trains you. The other commitment is to write at least 100 a day, every day. I admit that I failed a couple times on that last one, but I never skipped more than a day yet.

  32. #43 by hemmingplay on February 24, 2014 - 3:30 pm

    Excellent post. Back in ancient times, I worked at a daily newspaper. That taught me to write it, edit fast and ship it better than any other experience I’ve ever had. And every day, standing on the loading dock watching as we took the product of a multimillion dollar printing plant and professionals and handed it over to winos and teenagers to deliver — that’s another story — I usually wanted to have them bring it all back because I KNEW there were at least 50 mistakes in it that would make my phone ring the next day. But we kept moving forward. Forgive yourself, resolve to to it better the next day, and move on.

  33. #44 by wildcat1997 on February 24, 2014 - 3:32 pm

    I like what you have to say here. According to advertising we will never be good enough. As soon as you match what’s on TV, it all changes. You can only be true to yourself and what you decide to write as a writer.

  34. #45 by jillelainehughes on February 24, 2014 - 3:34 pm

    Reblogged this on Jill Elaine Hughes and commented:
    Wanted to reblog this great post by Kristen Lamb. I was thinking about discussing these very issues in a post today, and discovered that Kristen says it better than I could. Enjoy!

  35. #46 by sharonhughson on February 24, 2014 - 3:35 pm

    I still have to fight the perfectionist gene every single day. I am sitting on pins and needles because I gave the 2nd draft of my novel to some very supportive educators who I’m in a book group with. Why? Because it still needs work. They are so excited I wrote it and I’m so terrified they will vomit when they read it and lose all respect for me.
    In a happier vein, I have been posting without fail on my blog for over a year.
    You’re awesome, Kristen. I really look forward to smiling and being inspired when I read your posts.

  36. #47 by Ensis on February 24, 2014 - 3:36 pm

    I think I struggle most with biting off more than I can chew.
    I have my blog, Dontreadbooks.com (shameless plug) where I like to post three times a week if I can.
    Then I have a weekly serial, which I haven’t updated in three weeks, and my OTHER novel, which I badly need to edit, and I just started a NEW novel.
    I feel like I might have to cull one or two projects so I can devote to each the time they deserve.

  37. #48 by hemmingplay on February 24, 2014 - 3:38 pm

    Reblogged this on Hemmingplay.

  38. #49 by literaryliason on February 24, 2014 - 3:39 pm

    Great suggestions. I’m glad to know someone else had their tree out longer than I did. I put mine away either the last week of Jan or first week of Feb. Can’t remember. I only put it away because the cats were eating it.

  39. #50 by Russell Loyola Sullivan on February 24, 2014 - 3:40 pm

    Great blog. I was getting the feeling writers were not people. Obsession with obsession seems to be more important than creating a readable novel. I fully understand the need to write a piece of work that has been vetted by author and editor and has been given its due process but that last comma placed to where it meets the conclusion that all 10000 of then are now in place is a bit much.

  40. #51 by hemmingplay on February 24, 2014 - 3:41 pm

    Reblogged on hemmingplay

  41. #52 by ccfordwords on February 24, 2014 - 3:57 pm

    This post is SO true on many levels, in fact I just wrote a similar post on balancing life. HA! We must be on the same {I’m going to loose it any second} path. Where I faultier the most is trying to take on to much, but like you said you can’t be perfect at everything. I have to remind myself of that often. I live in Orange County and the perfection meter here is off the charts. I am lucky to be able to keep myself balanced with a great family, amazing supportive friends, the perfect job and writing. As I’m writing this my basket of laundry is staring me down – at least it’s clean! Thanks for the great post!!

  42. #53 by jillwilsonbrennan on February 24, 2014 - 4:02 pm

    You’re right, Kristen, life is a game in which the older you get, the better at juggling you get, and the harder it is to actually complete anything. I just published my first novel but it sure isn’t the first I wrote. That one got lost in an overseas move years ago. This one is called Skyscrapers by Jill Wilson Brennan and as you said, the important part is not that it isn’t the world’s greatest novel but that I actually finished it and real people have read it and like it. Wow. That sure wasn’t quite or easy! Thanks for the great post! Jill

  43. #54 by Elen Grey | Deep in B-ville Writing Over the Garage on February 24, 2014 - 4:11 pm

    Kristen – I love this post, especially those images. lol I’ve been guilty of the all or nothing on more than one occasion. And the perfectionism. And… And of using ellipses. Cheers! Oh, and congrats to the WANACon winners!!

  44. #55 by M.J. Pullen on February 24, 2014 - 5:03 pm

    YAY! I’m delighted to win free WANACon registration – it was already worth every penny, and free is a lot fewer pennies! Thanks so much. Now to go beat the crap out of my inner perfectionist and leave her tied up in a closet… :)

  45. #56 by TraceyLynnTobin on February 24, 2014 - 5:32 pm

    I flip-flop between several ways of thinking, but when it really comes down to it I just do what I can on a daily basis. If the idea of exercise makes me want to bawl like a baby today, I won’t do it. Tomorrow if I feel like running a marathon I’ll give it a go. I DO try to write every day but I forgive myself for those days when it’s just not possible.

    On a related note, if I had I have quiet to write I would have to give up right now. lol I never have two seconds of quiet at home because even when the little missy is occupied she’s still CONSTANTLY TALKING TO ME. ;)

  46. #57 by Laurie A Will on February 24, 2014 - 5:38 pm

    Hi Kristen,

    Yes, I suffer from the all or nothing mentality and have constantly remind myself that things are never going to be perfect. I am certain that my standards are high enough that they are unachievable for anyone, let alone me. I keep going back to your question about how I keep pushing myself or how I handle setbacks and I am not sure. I just have this drive inside of me that doesn’t go away that says quitting is not an option. It’s not a matter of who I am, but what I am. When people ask me who I am, writer is always the first word that pops into my head, not wife, not mother, not daughter, but writer. I do get discouraged. Sometimes I want to give up. When I tell my husband I am quitting he laughs at me and just says you’ll change your mind. And I always do and every time I come back I am more fired up then before. I guess it takes the setbacks discouragements, and failures to keep the fire going. They give us time to regroup and rededicate ourselves and I think that’s important.

    Laurie

  47. #58 by Lelia Rose Foreman (@LeliaForeman) on February 24, 2014 - 5:50 pm

    Thank you. I’m gonna ship.

  48. #59 by Virginia Nygard on February 24, 2014 - 5:58 pm

    Perfection is the ghoul under my bed at night. He lies in wait until I fall asleep and then he invades my dreams, turning them to nightmares. He taught me to curl my upper lip at fellow POD writers who turn out a book every year and have no shame when it comes to shouting, “Look at me! I’m loud and glib and schmoozy, so my book’s gotta be terrific, right?” After critique groups, paid editors (yes, plural), and several years’ work, I found errors they (we) missed even after the book was published. At that point, memory reminded me that I’ve found a few typos in traditionally published books. Thank you for acknowledging that perfection doesn’t exist, and expecting it from yourself or everyone around you IS a nightmare. Sigh. Maybe I can sleep tonight.

  49. #60 by adstarrling on February 24, 2014 - 7:03 pm

    Another great post thank you. And a reminder that life is quite frankly too short for perfect. Just live it and do your best.

    Xx

  50. #61 by Marilyn Quigley on February 24, 2014 - 7:29 pm

    A friend of mine who used to be perfectionistic in her housekeeping gave that up. She said, “When I stand before God, I want something more to hand him than a dustpan full of dirt.” Take whatever you obsess about trying to be perfect and insert it in the dustpan: chapters from umpteen novels set aside because imperfect; umpteen novels published at the cost of hardly any time spent playing with a child; having been the “perfect” mother always at the beck and call of children (who might have benefitted from some independent time here and there while you wrote that novel which you never finished). When I wonder if what I’m actually trying to perfect is worth it, I picture myself with that dustpan, either handing it to God or viewing it on my last earthly day as my “life’s accomplishment.” Am I smiling or crying at what I have to offer?

  51. #62 by Susan Spence on February 24, 2014 - 7:43 pm

    Since I am not an efficient writer, everything I write is a chance to practice. I can easily spend half an hour on a comment, a blog post can take me a week to write and my first two novels took around four years a piece to complete. But I’m improving because, instead of aiming for numbers or a timeline, I strive for perfection in every sentence, even though I recognize it’s an elusive goal.

    It was the same way when I used to ski. It was so much of fun, but I didn’t just let loose. Every turn was a chance for perfection. Just like writing, sometimes things went smoothly and sometimes I barely hung on.

    I think the key is that I have no problem backing off from any activity if it’s not happening for whatever reason. For me it’s not quitting, it’s regrouping.

    Perfection can bring you up or take you down depending on how you use it.

  52. #63 by netraptor001 on February 24, 2014 - 7:50 pm

    Haha, I read that same motivational book years ago. And I still wonder how its possible to find an hour to think alone. If I get an hour to myself, I sleep!

  53. #64 by richardperth on February 24, 2014 - 8:02 pm

    I revised two chapters today and shined two pair of shoes. Nevertheless, my to do list is to infinity and beyond.

  54. #65 by Elizabeth kurecka. on February 24, 2014 - 8:03 pm

    Omg! I read your blog today after coming from work with a fast food takeout because I hadn’t written my memoir class assignment due tomorrow when my phone rang. A dear friend’s car had died, she was at the dealer and if her father who lives out in the country couldn’t pick her before the dealership closed, would I go get her and let her stay at my house until her father got there. “Of course,” I answered. “Just let me know.” Then I flew into gear, putting back the unopened beer I had planned on having to relax a bit before I started on my assignment. Turn on faucet to get hot water to wash dirty pans, (no room in dishwasher), clear off countertops, fining room table, coffee table, pick up dog toys, clean guest bath, hide spores and magazines. You get the picture. The phone rang again and I crammed the last bite of my now cold take out, she said, “my dad is her. See you tomorrow at work.” I was feeling so guilty for letting my life get out of hand until I read your blog. Hurray! I’m not that different from some one else! Now I better tackle that assignment and that beer. Thanks for saving my sanity.

    • #66 by Gry Ranfelt on February 25, 2014 - 4:12 am

      I find it really cute at what lengths you went to make things nice for your could-happen guest :)

  55. #67 by Katherine Kingsford on February 24, 2014 - 8:35 pm

    It took me far too many years to start a blog because I wanted it to be perfect. I wanted t to have to perfect name, the perfect URL, the perfect storyline. Perfect grammar, 100% of the time. Finally, I decided to just go for it. I’m only three posts in, but I’m doing it. Thanks for the great read.

    • #68 by mariecreativity on February 24, 2014 - 9:57 pm

      Hurrah for you! That’s all it takes, is just to jump in :D

  56. #69 by Kelley Conrad on February 24, 2014 - 8:45 pm

    Wow! Thank you so much for the free WanaCon! I had such an awesome time and learned so much from all the presenters. If you missed it, you don’t want to miss the next one! Thanks to Kristen, Jami and Jay for a wonderful experience!

    I spend too much time worrying if I am good enough. I need to just ship it and sail away on my next adventure. Balance is so hard to find when you are pulled in 20 different directions an hour. I think as women we have been trained to take care of others first and ignore our own needs. I have decided this will be the year of me. I will be 50 this year and with that milestone approaching, I am doing what I need to do for me. That means taking my writing seriously. Listening to all Kristen’s advice and building a platform and putting my work out there.

  57. #70 by Debbie Johansson on February 24, 2014 - 9:15 pm

    Great timing Kristen! After several years of study, I’m finding this issue of perfectionism a hard habit to break. I now expect my writing to be perfect first time, which I know is unrealistic, yet it can stop me from getting any writing done at all. I like your approach of ‘finish small and eventually we’ll finish big’ – great advice and one I plan to use.

    Taking time out to help look for zombies sounds like a lot of fun! Enjoy and thanks for another great post. :)

  58. #71 by ontyrepassages on February 24, 2014 - 9:20 pm

    Kind of like me and Twitter. I fretted and fretted and then said, “Oh well,” and jumped in. Wow, I survived. No trip to the ER required. :)

  59. #72 by mariecreativity on February 24, 2014 - 9:57 pm

    Great points to ponder over – I forget this so often in my rush to make everything perfect. Just do it :)

  60. #73 by doovinator on February 24, 2014 - 10:05 pm

    It takes 50% as much time to get something to 90% perfect as it does to get it to 99% perfect. That in turn is 50% of the time it takes to get 99% to 99.9% perfect, which is 50% of the time it takes to get from 99.9% to 99.99% perfect–but IT’S NEVER PERFECT!! AND NEVER WILL BE!!

  61. #75 by Derek Pietras on February 24, 2014 - 10:12 pm

    I’m working on editing a draft of my novel now. It’s been a slow process because life and because I keep finding scenes that need rewriting. But honestly, it doesn’t get me down. The process of editing is a joy in and of itself. But, after I finish this draft, I know that I will have to say “good enough” and move on because if I don’t, I never will.

    Thanks for putting these thoughts in words!

    • #76 by Gry Ranfelt on February 25, 2014 - 4:14 am

      Editing really is an art in itself and I’m glad I’m not the only one enjoying it :D I have so much respect for people who can just delete scenes and make stuff work.

  62. #77 by Polly Anna Cynic on February 24, 2014 - 10:21 pm

    Thank you, that was exactly what I needed to hear today.
    Kara

  63. #78 by smbysh on February 24, 2014 - 11:05 pm

    Reblogged this on smbysh.

  64. #79 by nicolegrabner on February 24, 2014 - 11:20 pm

    I find that the more that I write, the less I worry about finding the perfect thing to write about and the easier it is for me to put word on the page. I really like Nora Robert’s saying, “A$$ in chair.” Because, for me, that’s what it comes down to. No more procrastinating, it’s time to do the job. :) Thanks, Kristen. This was a great post!

  65. #80 by Sinistra Inksteyne on February 25, 2014 - 12:12 am

    “Somewhere between mediocrity and insanity is a nice happy place.”
    Ahhhhh…..
    (and thanks for the warning about the Lollipop)

  66. #81 by jbiggar2013 on February 25, 2014 - 12:13 am

    Hi Kristen, I won your book, ty so much :)
    My mantra has always been if you don’t try the answer is no. I apply this to every goal I set out to achieve and it’s held me in good stead so far. I agree, no one is a Super Hero, we’re all just human, so cut your self some slack and just focus on doing what you love.

  67. #82 by jbiggar2013 on February 25, 2014 - 12:14 am

    Reblogged this on jbiggarblog and commented:
    WooHoo I won Kristen’s book :)

  68. #83 by AGentleandQuietSpirit on February 25, 2014 - 6:31 am

    At some point in the not to distant future, I hope to be a stay at home writing mom. There are days I struggle with feeling like I’ll never write once I start having kids, but I want to have kids. You help me feel like this is possible and are showing me what it’s going to take. Thank you!

    • #84 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 25, 2014 - 9:02 am

      Nah, you’ll probably write more. I did. And babies ease you into it. They don’t start out climbing and trying to play with knives. You get time to change as they grow. Invest in a Kinect for the toddler years. Will save you.

  69. #86 by Mark Luyk on February 25, 2014 - 7:26 am

    Ho Kristen, Thanks for the many helpful articles! I have a question. I saw that the recordings from WanaCon are still available. The ‘buy now’ link leads to the registration page, which confuses me. How can I buy the recordings? What’s the price?Can I buy only the recordings of the topics appealing to me? Kind regards, Mark LuykNetherlands

    Date: Mon, 24 Feb 2014 18:35:12 +0000 To: mark_luyk@hotmail.com

  70. #87 by Barbara Hinske on February 25, 2014 - 7:37 am

    As usual, another wonderful piece of advice! I just discovered you in the last 30 days, and I’m overjoyed when you’re waiting in my inbox! I drop everything and read. Your mantra — The world rewards finishers, not perfection — has been on my lips countless times since I read it in your post a week or 10 days ago. I’ve been quoting you to my children, coworkers, and neighbors. Bravo!! Looking forward to more. I self-published my first novel in Dec 2012. Was it perfect? No way! But I had it professionally edited and took it as far as I could, so it was time to let it go. And it’s actually sold well! I’ve got a nice following of people who are looking forward to the sequel, which I’m putting more effort (and $$$) into. I got plenty of reader love, and some criticism, too. I’m trying to allow the criticism to instruct me on making the sequel better. Bottom line — if I’d continued to stew on that first manuscript, I’d never have had the wonderful experiences I’ve had the past year.

  71. #89 by K.B. Owen on February 25, 2014 - 7:57 am

    That “peeing alone” thing. Oh yeah. ;)

  72. #90 by Tamara LeBlanc on February 25, 2014 - 9:10 am

    Whoa, late in commenting. Yesterday was a bear!
    I beat myself up most about my weight, which is ridiculous, all things considered, but I can’t seem to help myself.
    But I love what you said, “the world rewards finishers, not perfection.” That’s so true. We, me, can never be perfect, not in body, not in mind, not in writing. What we need to do is take one day at a time and do our best to get things done (like manuscripts or edits, or just eating right for 24 hrs) then, in the long run, we’ll be good to go.
    Thanks for your wisdom!
    Tamara

  73. #91 by Pat Amsden on February 25, 2014 - 10:03 am

    So true! You can have the most perfect sentence ever and, with the possible exception of writing buddies no one else will ever see it if you don’t finish the book, story or whatever it’s a part of. Imagine if that sentence was part of your favorite book! What a loss.

    When it comes to clean eating though I suspect I’m going to stay the size I am instead of the size I’m aiming for unless I keep it clean as much as possible. I’m good at finding loopholes here but unless I want to BE the size of a bus it’s best I strive for perfection. Hands off that chocolate!

  74. #92 by writerchick on February 25, 2014 - 10:44 am

    I think this whole perfection thing came from the ‘you can have it all’ movement back in the day. You know, I am woman, hear me roar. And all it accomplished was in making women feel inadequate and stupid. But I personally have a problem with the word ‘balance’ too – it gets bandied about quite a bit too. I think that artists (including writers, of course) don’t operate in the balance zone. We’re passionate and passion means big jags of enthusiasm one day and big swaths of self-pity the next. It does all balance out, I think, for most of us, though.

    I agree with you though on the baby steps. You’d be amazed how much you can accomplish by just doing a little bit every day. It does add up. And you do finish things that way. We can’t use others (especially famous authors whose lives are dedicated to writing and have assistants, housekeepers, chefs and drivers) as a yardstick on how much we should write a day or how mnay words we must produce. We can only use ourselves as the yardstick. When you have more time you write more – but even 15 minutes a day makes a difference.

    Anyway, good post. Thanks.

    Annie

    • #93 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 25, 2014 - 11:01 am

      But we are still balanced. We can’t be amazingly, zealously passionate about our art (writing) and have that same requirement for all other aspects of life. If we are going to throw heart and soul into our craft, then we need to settle for less-than-a-Martha-Stewart-Home, perhaps, lest we go nusto and burn out. We need to reserve that passion where it needs to go—our art. And the dishes will be there. Trust me. I have tested this theory :D.

  75. #94 by Shelby on February 25, 2014 - 11:49 am

    I need to remember this, that not everything has to be perfect and perfection is an illusion. Progress in the right direction is still progress, and that is difficult to think,, because we only see the success at the end and not the baby steps it took to get there.Even though the revisions make me want to pull my hair out and scream, if I keep at it, I will eventually get there.

  76. #95 by Glynis Jolly on February 25, 2014 - 12:17 pm

    I’m a perfectionist by nature. From what I’ve read, most Virgos are. Before I started writing seriously, I had to learn to let go of this ‘perfection’ thing because of the man I married. I love him, not doubt about it, but he is a slob most of the time. Like my perfectionism, he comes by his sloppiness naturally. Because of my natural tendencies, I, of course, spotted this difference between us, whereas he’s oblivious to it. Therefore, I was the one who curbed my want and over the years have gotten somewhat use to the way the house is. This, logically, has led to me having the time to write. I gave a little and got a little. All is right with my world. :)

  77. #96 by Shermie Rayne on February 25, 2014 - 1:13 pm

    I so loved this post! Thank you! I’m sharing it with my writing group now:)

  78. #97 by Elen Grey | Deep in B-ville Writing Over the Garage on February 25, 2014 - 1:48 pm

    Reblogged this on Elen Grey and commented:
    I need to be a finisher, not a perfectionist. Do you need to be a finisher, too? Author and Social Media Expert Kristen Lamb has some thoughts on that. Lamb is a blogger to read.

  79. #98 by Thomas Weaver on February 25, 2014 - 5:36 pm

    I used to be all-or-nothing about most things. I think being physically disabled, and reaching the point where I CAN NOT do all the things I feel like I’m “supposed” to be doing, has forced me to step back and stop trying for perfection in everything. There are a few things I do very well. There are several things I do well enough to please myself (I’m not the best cook in the world, but I make pretty darn good fish chowder, so who cares if I can’t also make curry?) and be happy with that. With writing… I will rewrite and rewrite for years (or decades) because I’m worried it’s still not good enough. Finished is better than perfect. (I edit novels for other people; I should KNOW this.) What I struggle to remember is that there is no single definition of “perfection” anyway.

  80. #99 by Jennifer J. Chow on February 26, 2014 - 1:10 am

    Great post! Thanks for providing me the freedom of not being perfect. I’m going to focus on shipping now (since I finally put away my friends’ Christmas greeting cards that I had displayed).

  81. #100 by jumpingfromcliffs on February 26, 2014 - 5:33 am

    An excellent post and one we should all learn by heart. How do you measure ‘finished’ or ‘perfect’ with writing anyway? There’s always something else to tweak, another phrase to hone, an adjective to remove…

  82. #101 by shanjeniah on February 26, 2014 - 7:50 am

    OMG OMG OMG!!!! I’m a WINNER! =D Squeee!

    Is it odd that I’m kind of scared that I won, because I know you are going to do that voodoo that you do so well, and my head will spin?

    Not only that, but this post….I adore it.

    I’ve spent five years learning how not to make taking care of the house my life’s work. it was pointless. Our life is set up around natural learning, and, if there’s a place where that happens neatly, well, this is emphatically not it!

    Now, I never invite anyone in who will be more interested in the state of the house than they are in us, and I have extra hours every day for enjoying my life, and, you know, writing stuff….

    Ahhhh….it’s much better, even if I still can’t count on having the bathroom to myself!

  83. #102 by Robyn Mulder on February 26, 2014 - 9:08 am

    Kristen, great blog post. Lots of great ideas that I’ll keep in mind as I work on becoming a more consistent writer. I’ve posted to my blog every Friday for 7 weeks (robynmulder.blogspot.com) – I count that as a victory for this procrastinator! ~Robyn

  84. #103 by Marissa on February 26, 2014 - 11:24 am

    Thanks Kristen! I have always been a huge journaller and recently started blogging to work on my writing skills. I have book ideas rolling around in my head but I wanted to work on my writing skills first. Thank you for the reminder of setting attainable goals and not striving for perfection. I cannot please everyone and if I keep doubting my writing skills, then I will never reach my goals. Instead I need to keep pressing forward and trust that even if I have a couple people follow blog that must mean my writing can’t be all bad. Thanks!

  85. #104 by Kristen Luciani on February 26, 2014 - 11:27 am

    Just reading this relaxed me! Lol! And not that it’s the only thing I took away from this insightful post, but I just wanted to mention that instead of P90x you may want to look into T25. It’s awesome and shorter. Plus there’s a modified workout to prevent injury if you want to go a bit easier. Still hard though. Just my two cents. :-)

    • #105 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 27, 2014 - 8:33 am

      There is a new P90 that is 30 minutes and I might look into that. I didn’t get injured with P90. It was mowing the yard with a crappy mower. I pushed myself too hard with the yard work and then injured myself *head desk*. Sigh. I rarely have been injured doing anything “cool.”

  86. #106 by danielfbowman on February 26, 2014 - 2:48 pm

    Doesn’t it feel freeing to be okay with not being perfect? In the exercise world, there’s a saying, “Anyone who is at his/her best all the time is pretty mediocre.”
    Do you think it helps to focus on being “perfect” for a short time? For example, focus on writing until the rough draft is finished. Then switch temporarily to another hobby.

    http://danielfbowman.wordpress.com/2013/07/24/freedom-to-quit-3-reasons-to-take-it-easy-on-yourself/

    • #107 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 27, 2014 - 8:34 am

      I don’t think that is “perfectionism.” Perfectionism tends to be a defeating process where there is no forward momentum. We quibble with finding perfect words and futzing with dialogue and 6 months later aren’t halfway through the first draft.

  87. #108 by milesmv81writes on February 26, 2014 - 4:17 pm

    Thank you so much for putting this out there. We all try to hard to fit into that cookie cutter image that we see all around us. It doesn’t exist. We are the real people in a world of posers!

    Also how do you like p90x? I am going to start it tonight and I’m petrified. I hope I am just able to complete the workout. Any tips?

    Great post!! Love reading your blog!!

    • #109 by Author Kristen Lamb on February 27, 2014 - 8:31 am

      I love P90X. Each exercise is broken down into how many minutes, so it makes it seem to go faster. Also, I can sit one out or modify until I get stronger or gain endurance. Also you see results MAD FAST, even if you only do part of the workouts. Like I might skip the push-ups or modify them because I have a history of tendonitis (why I had to quit last time and that was from YARD WORK). This time I am doing the Lean version so I don’t risk a flare-up of tendonitis.

  88. #110 by Caroline on February 26, 2014 - 5:59 pm

    To me it is great to read this post now. I started blogging over a month ago, just to have the deadline of actually finishing something I started writing. I have been writing for a long time, but blogging actually helped me getting over something really though that has been hunting me for 12 years. HOW? Just by finishing a post, because by the end of the post I actually lost the thoughts in my head. Furthermore it helps to read your own finished work back, because it make you look at your own thoughts from an objective perspective. Great post and great blog!

  89. #111 by John Baker on February 26, 2014 - 6:00 pm

    “The world rewards finishers not perfection” is absolutely true in software development circles. Writers aren’t the only people tormented by perfection. One of the issues I struggle with is the “diary vs. reference” conundrum. I know most of my readers find my blog via search engines and most are seeking very specific answers to particular questions. My “reference” posts are the most sought after but my “diary” posts are the most fun to write. What to do? I tell myself it’s my blog and I will write what I want. The minute money is changing hands I might reconsider. Regardless, your advice to write every day is something I have more luck with than exercise or dieting so maybe I am a “writer.” Another great post — cheers.

  90. #112 by Raani York on February 26, 2014 - 6:05 pm

    Thank you Kristen. Thanks so much for a very VERY encouraging Blog for me. It really helps me a lot to keep focus on the right thing – and it tells me what I had hoped – but had a hard time putting together right… until you finally “spoke it” out.
    Thank you!

  91. #113 by M T McGuire on February 27, 2014 - 12:07 pm

    So true, it’s all about taking on the things you want but not too much and if you want to take on too much, well, you just have to ditch something.

    Cheers

    MTM

  92. #114 by Suzanne Lucero (@S_Lucero) on February 27, 2014 - 8:21 pm

    I have to say your suggestion to connect with someone who lives close to where your novel takes place is spot-on. I’ve done the Google-earth bit and read travel blogs about the area, but nothing will ever take the place of checking details about habits and turns of phrases with someone who actually lives there.

    I was lucky enough to become Twitter buddies with a professional editor who lives very close to the village in Scotland where my novel takes place. She has saved my … um, tail-end so many times it’s not funny. She will definitely get a big shout-out in the Acknowledgement sectioned when my baby is finally published.

  93. #115 by Karen on February 27, 2014 - 10:27 pm

    Love. It.
    Especially that you share in the ‘Mom experience’ and never ending laundry.
    I strive for balance – ALWAYS. Nice to know there are others out there too trying to keep it real and not faking it. (Perfect house, perfect kids, perfect car, and hair, makeup, relationships etc.) You made me smile today. Thanks.

  94. #116 by Dave Withe on February 28, 2014 - 5:14 pm

    Kristen, I’ve been a follower for almost a year. I talked up your #MyWana thing to my online writers group about the time I moved it to a private Facebook group page.

    I’m sorry that I got to your “The World Rewards Finishers NOT Perfection” post too late to vote in the I.U. website poll (great resource by the way I subscribed). That quote is my new wallpaper.

    This post is very helpful. My somewhat moribund writing call has been revitalized due to a freelance gig to ghost write a biography of my pastor’s wife’s mother. Your blog post is a very providential exhortation at a critical juncture.

    I don’t have an active blog currently; but based on your comments in this post I see that I should re design and reactivate my old wordpress blog.

    Thanks and God Bless you. Love your blog by the way.

    SGD
    dave

  95. #117 by ramblinann on March 1, 2014 - 4:45 pm

    I missed being able to read your blog. My life didn’t just hiccup it projectile vomitted,but am now hopefully getting back in the swing of things. You always seem to give me the boot in the butt I need, so I’m off to write something.

  96. #119 by D Holcomb on March 2, 2014 - 2:11 pm

    Perfection. Definitely perfection. I can rewrite the life out of a piece. Gah! It’s an addiction. Doing laundry would be a relief!

  97. #120 by Eric on March 3, 2014 - 7:04 am

  98. #121 by Kate on March 3, 2014 - 7:34 am

    Reblogged this on Some of my favourite posts and commented:
    I’m desperately trying to get over the fear of starting. Being a massive perfectionist, doing something I don’t know whether I am good at is terrifying. I like the idea that even 100 words a day can be a goal.

  99. #122 by Britt Skrabanek on March 5, 2014 - 11:43 am

    I feel the same way. Wanna be a writer? Sit your arse down, and do it! There is absolutely no such thing as a perfect book, just like there is no such thing as perfection.

  100. #123 by kindleandilluminate on March 19, 2014 - 11:26 am

    Kristen, thanks! Exactly what I need to get back in my writing schedule! The news I have my first SPAWN on the way has sent me into constant fatigue and sleep. No morning sickness, thank goodness. The hubby and I were shocked and are thrilled, but I have regained some energy and am looking forward to the 2nd trimester and my early morning (non-perfect) writing schedule again! I, too, have fur-babies – cat and dog – that love to accompany me to the bathroom. Very soon my first (and only) child will, too, I’m sure. Thanks for always being real – I love your blogs. Thanks – Janellen

    • #124 by Author Kristen Lamb on March 19, 2014 - 12:38 pm

      Congratulations! And the cool thing is that babies give you time to ease into being a mom. Thank GOD they don’t start out being able to walk and climb and find the knives. Stay rested ((HUGS)).

  101. #125 by BenAustinBlog on May 9, 2014 - 1:39 pm

    This was great thanks!

    I especially resonated with the Learn to ship and “Blogging trains perfection out of us” parts.

    Blogging has forced me to put things out there that were very mediocre. I learned from my crappy blog posts and then kept on pushing through the resistance.

    The hardest thing was just getting the ball rolling. After you mess things up, you lose your identity as a perfectionist and it gets much easier to keep writing.

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